I sent my baby off to the repair center for an estimate today. I was still waffling on what to do given that this year the universe has been against us on the financial front. One of the still photographers on CSI said I should send my baby to the repair facility and just see what they say before making a decision. So, I did. One reason I so quickly took his advice is that I hate it when people ask me for advice as if they desperately need my help and I spend time helping them only for them to go back to their totally lame ass ways of doing things without even giving my ideas a whirl then they complain that they are stuck (still). I did not want to be the type of person that annoys the hell out of me.
In my quest to save time and to prove that change can happen over night, I have stopped giving advice to friends more than once* on the same subject if they seem hell bent on not changing their ways after acting like they want to. It's really hard to watch people you love struggle, especially when it is because they won't get out of their own way. It's difficult for me not to help people so I had to make RULES for myself. I love rules** so much.
1. I will not give advice to people who have had the same hairstyle for five years. Clearly, they are afraid of change.
2. I will not give advice to ADULTS who fake-swear. If you are telling me about the fight you had with your other friend and you say she's a b-word!!!! or he can go to hmmm-hmmm!!! I'll be annoyed. If you don't swear, OK, but don't fake-swear.
3. I will not give advice to people who don't aknowledge their own existence.
4. I will not give advice to people who will not TAKE advice. If you are offended by the advice you seek, will not seriously consider the advice (even if you then choose not to do it), or argue that you ever needed advice, just don't ask.
5. I will not give advice to people when they CALL me after I specifically tell them to EMAIL me.
It's been about two weeks since I started following these rules. It's been an interesting experiment. It hasn't been easy. There were a few times when I had to keep putting peanut butter cups in my mouth to keep from saying stuff. Yeah, for sure that is why I was eating them. A few of my friends have ended conversations with me by asking if I am sick or something when I haven't given my usual round of advice or responded to their pleas for guidance (when I have already said what I think). Some friends have wondered if I am mad at them. And, I have become paranoid about being sure I do what the people I respect the most suggest I do when I ask them. Well, unless it is Tod. I still just do the opposite of what he says.
Do you have any rules we should experiment with?
* I hate repeating myself.
**This is sentence was typed in the sarcastic font.
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